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Berkata Bisyr bin Harb – رَحِمَهُ اللَّـهُ تَعَالَى – :
Salamun alaikum (keselamatan atas kalian), Salamun alaikum.. »
Al-‘Iyal, karya Ibnu Abi Ad-Dunya (hal. 282).
قال بشر بن حرب :
خرجت مع عبدالله بن عمر بن الخطاب إلى السوق فجعل لا يمرُّ على صغير ولا كبير إلا قال :
سلامٌ عليكم ، سلامٌ عليكم
[ العيال لابن أبي الدنيا ٢٨٢ ]
The above history is in line with the history that Rosulullah once invited an 8-year-old to discuss the issue of his wife (Aisyah) who was slandered with adultery. From there I concluded that Rosul really appreciated someone who was much younger than him.
Polite Against Older People
The morality commanded by Islam in respect of someone older is:
In this hadith there is a sentence that means that parents must be respected and loved, because respect for older people is their right. And younger respect for older people is the most emphasized character in this matter.
- Start greeting him
The Messenger of Allah said,
يسلم الصغير على الكبير، و الراكب على الماشي. رواه البخاري
So if you meet someone older than you, don’t wait for them to greet you, the younger one should immediately greet him with respect, good manners, and tenderness.
Also, a younger person must be able to see the condition of someone who is older than him, if this parent has a good hearing, then say a greeting that he can hear without disturbing him, and if the parent has a hearing impairment then a younger person must give greetings accordingly with the condition of the old man.
- If you speak to him then call with a gentle call.
In the narration of Abi Umamah ibn Sahl, he said, “We had prayed Dhuhr with Umar bin Abdul Aziz then we went out, then we entered again into the mosque, then we saw Anas bin Malik praying asar, so I said,” O Uncle, What prayer do you do? “, He said,” Prayer Asar, and this is the prayer of the Messenger of God that we used to pray with him “. (HR. Bukhari)
It is narrated from the path of Abdurahman bin Auf, he said, “I once stood in line at the time of war, then I looked to my right and left, I found two small children from the Ansor, They were very young, and I wished can be stronger than them, then one of them called me, “O Uncle, do you know which Abu Jahl is?”, I said, “yes, I know what you want from him?”, the boy said, “I was told that he insulted the Messenger of Allah, I swear by the Essence that my soul is in His hands, if I meet him then I will not let him go until he is in one of us who dies first “. (HR. Bukhari)
- Prior to everything that is good
Including good morality is prioritizing parents in speaking, giving a place to him in the assembly, giving priority to feeding parents, and this includes their rights.
It is narrated by Imam Bukhari and Muslim in his book, that Abdurahman bin Sahl and Muhiyisoh and Huwayisoh went to meet the Prophet sallalla Alaihi wa sallam, then after arriving at the Prophet, spoke the youngest among them, Abdurahman bin Sahl, then the Prophet Muhammad Shallahu Alahi wa Sallam interrupted his words and said, “the old one spoke”, the meaning is Muhiyisoh and Huwayisoh.
- Take care of it
We already know that someone who is old, will have a weak body, will be weak in vision and hearing and so on. Therefore we must always really care for them, because later we will also be in the time they feel now.
للَّهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ ضَعْفٍ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِنْ بَعْدِ ضَعْفٍ قُوَّةً ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِنْ بَعْدِ قُوَّةٍ ضَعْفًا وَشَيْبَةً يَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ وَهُوَ الْعَلِيمُ الْقَدِير (الروم:54)
Allah, He is the one who created you from a weak state, then He made (you) after the weak state became strong, then He made (you) after being strong it was weak (back) and grayed. He created what He wanted and He was the Knower, the Almighty. (Surah Ar-Rum 54)
Also Allah says,
And among you, there are those who are memorized and (among them) those of you who are extended to senile age. (Surah Al Haj: 5)
From this verse we get that it is the right of the older parent who is younger to know about his health, then take care of him. Even some parents because of their weakened body, and the ability of their brains to decline eventually make him like a child who is still small.
So if someone does not know about health problems and the weakness of someone who is old then he will be impatient in taking care of it, it will be bad for him, because he does not feel what is experienced by an aging person. It’s different if someone feels or imagines himself like a weak parent, and knowing that caring for him is their right to us, then he will take care of it as well as possible.
And also the concern, is a child who initially always does good to parents and takes care of them then turns into a bad muamalah, can’t wait to guard his parents, even to send his parents to a nursing home, maybe even to not even see him, even though on Lebaran day .
The Messenger of Allah said,
فَمَنْ أَحَبَّ أَنْ يُزَحْزَحَ عَنْ النَّارِ وَيُدْخَلَ الْجَنَّةَ فَلْتَأْتِهِ مَنِيَّتُهُ وَهُوَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللهِ وَالْيَوْمِ ا خْآلِرِوَلْيَأْتِ إِلَى النَّاسِ الَّذِي يُحِبُّ أَنْ يُؤْتَى إِلَيْهِ
“Whoever wants to be kept away from the fires of hell and put in heaven, let the moment of death come to him in a state of faith in Allah and the final day, he should also associate people with the attitude that he is happy to be treated with.”
- Pray for him
Encouraging parents, to extend their age in obedience to God, also pray for them to be given taufiq in charity prayers, as well as always under the auspices of Allah, also ask Allah so that they are put on health clothing, given husnul khotimah, and made into groups of people who are inside Prophet’s hadith,
It was told that Sulaiman bin Abdul Malik met with the parents inside the mosque, then asked him, “O Fulan, now you are old, do you want to die? The old man replied,” No “, why? Solomon asked. “I have gone into my youth and ugliness in it, and came of old age and kindness, if I want to get up from my seat, I say Bismillah, if I sit I say Alhamdulillah, then I prefer this kind of situation”.
- No one can repay his kindness
No one can repay his kindness, the Messenger of Allah once said, “no child will be able to return his parents’ favor unless he finds a parent to be a slave and then decrees”.
Also the story of Ibn Umar was that there was someone tawaf around you while holding his mother, then the person said, “O Ibn Umar, do you see what I do? So have I repaid him? ”
Ibn Umar replied, “No, even though one breath was”.